A Day Without Kids

I have not had a full day away from both my kids since my son was born two and a half years ago. Of course, there have been half days here and there but not a full day. Yesterday, I was gone from the morning until the evening attending the Integratron Sound Bath for a guided mediation. I drove with one of my good friends, who is also a mama of two little girls, and we were so excited to get away and share this time together. In the car, We laughed about how fun it was to be able to talk about anything we wanted, the freedom to use swear words when needed, to talk about love, loss and life without restricting our conversation.  When we arrived at the Sound Bath, we sat in hammocks, drinking greens juice and relaxing in the breeze with such a feeling of joy and relaxation. During the mediation, I went into a instant state of relaxation.  I mentally realized that I had no children to worry about and at the moment, I went into a deep surrender. I surrendered to the Divine and had gratitude for this special moment. I surrendered to the Divine and let go to my husband back at home, knowing that he was being a "kick butt" Papa and that I had nothing to worry about. Although, the meditation only lasted an hour, it felt freeing to let go in that moment. It is something that I am working on as a mama. The ability to be able to surrender and let go at key moments in my day has really brought harmony to myself, my husband and my children. Taking this day for myself was a lovely reminder that I need to take special time for myself more often. It can be something small like going to a yoga class or something big like a weekend retreat but whatever it is, it is key to my balance. It is key to the balance of any mother.

As we approach Mother's Day, I ask that each of you glorious and dedicated mamas take a few minutes out of your day and make a plan for yourself. Make a plan for your day without kids and put it into action. You will be better for it.

Yesterday was a wonderful day, I felt refreshed, balanced and at the end of that day, I loved coming home to my two perfect children yelling words of joy out the window as they saw me come home.

Trust yourself,

Alicia

Let Your Light Shine

I recently went to a session with my friend Kristin at Sacred Heart Empire, who does energy bodywork. If you have never experienced something like this, I think it is a must for all mamas. It is hard to put into words what the experience bring to you but I highly suggest you book a session with her to find out more!

As mothers, we often put our children first, then our partners and then ourselves. We often feel guilty if the order is reversed in any way. This often may make us feel tired, cranky, depleted and give us feelings of a loss of sense of self, who we were before we were mothers. That was a huge reason why I went to Sacred Heart Empire. After my session, I left feeling reborn, rebalanced in who I am as a person, as a woman. The theme that kept coming up for me was to "Let my light shine". By allowing this to happen, by letting my light shine bright and true, this would expand to my husband and my children and provide a more calm family and a more calm self. By waking up each morning and turning my light on from head to toe, I could conquer my day with hope, awareness, patience and love. The most beautiful part was that I was taking time to put "me" first. It is something we need to be better at as mothers. By putting "me" first, on a more regular basis, I am creating a more happy self and in turn, a more happy husband and happy children. We need to remember to turn our lights on and let them shine brightly not just as mothers but as the amazing, strong and beautiful women we are. Every day this week, take 10 minutes of your day and focus on your beautiful light shining out of you from head, to finger tips to toes. Send it out into the world and let it be seen by all around you. I promise, you will feel the shift in your daily life, as I have felt. 

Trust Yourself,

Alicia

Being in the present

Being in the present is often a challenge when you are a mother.  As a mother of two children, I often find my mind wandering to a million different places.  These past couple days, I have really been trying to keep my mind focused on the present by keeping the Divine in my mind.  I often repeat different things like "Divine Mother" or "the Divine is with me".  I find that it helps me to stay focused on what I am doing, the things I am saying and how I am acting in my daily life.  By reminding myself that the Divine is with me, it guides me to think about my actions and how I am reflecting on others, especially my children. 

Weather you believe in a Divine presence, God or something different, try putting that greatness in your mind through out the day.  I promise it will guide you into a happier and healthier you.

Trust Yourself,

Alicia

 

What is the mirror telling you?

A few months ago, I attended a Goddess circle lead by my friend Jenna.  The topic was "mirror image".  We discussed the idea that often we are being mirrored our own negative energy behaviors or struggles right in front of ourselves but often ignore them.  For example, you may find that you get frustrated by a co-worker who seems to always want to control the situation, however, when you step back and reflect, you may discover that it is you who is controlling which is why you became agitated by your co-worker.  The Divine is providing a mirror image for you in order to help you to understand your own flaws and hopefully, work on ways to improve them.  This made me think a lot about being a mother and how our children are constant mirrors of our behavior.  I can think of many occasions where I find myself getting frustrated at my daughter Tallulah and how she is behaving but when I step back and take a moment and be mindful in the situation at hand, I often realize, she is mirroring my own behavior.  It is one of the best lessons the Divine can provide for you as a parent.  The Divine is very cleaver and if you take the time to pause and look inside yourself as to why you get so annoyed at certain people's behaviors or actions, you will likely find that it is because they are mirroring something inside yourself that you wish to improve.  Spend each day, thinking of thoughts going through your mind and the words coming out of your mouth and reflect on them.  If you feel they are a reflection of the Divine's love then you are on the right path.

Trust yourself,

Alicia

The Intuition of Siblings

I grew up with a sister who was 9 years older then me, so I always felt like an only child.  I also grew up with no cousins so I often wondered what it would have been like to grow up in a family with other children my age to connect with.  Looking at my daughter and son interact with each other, I am so grateful that they have each other.  They are a little over two years apart and it has been so special to see them grow in their love and friendship with each other.  I cannot imagine them not having each other.  My favorite thing about their relationship is their intuitive connection.  Children are so full of love, light and truth so they often follow how they feel because they are not clouded with so many things in their head, telling them to do differently.  My children always support each other and are able to sense how the other one is feeling because they trust their intuitive spirit within themselves. There is nothing like the power of pure love.

Trust yourself,

Alicia

Sensitive Soul

When moms get together especially moms with new babies, the question often comes up “Is your baby sleeping through the night?”. Our society puts so much pressure on new parents on the subject of getting your baby to sleep through the night. There are books, blogs, articles, research papers, so many different forms of communication that give you a list of all the things you should do or not do, to get your baby to sleep through the night. At our pediatrician, they even give you an article at the 4 month check up, telling you why your baby should be sleeping through the night at 4 months of age. In my opinion, this is crazy and absurd to be told how your baby should be sleeping at that young of an age, honestly, at any age. Isn’t every child different? How can we put a blanket statement out there about babies sleep habits? Every baby is unique and has different needs, desires etc.
I have come to understand this in a greater way with my second child, Joaquin. I wish I could take all my second baby knowledge and learning’s and pass them on to first baby parents but I am not sure it would help because it is such a learning experience the first time around and such a right of passage to get where I am now as a mother.

The one thing I know for certain is that when it comes to the sleeping habits of any baby or child, it is important to trust and listen to our intuition as mothers. Joaquin is 22 months and just started sleeping through the night about a month ago. Prior to that, he would wake up often. At first it was to nurse, then he stopped nursing, then it was just for comfort. I was told by so many different people that I had to “break” Joaquin of his bad sleeping habits and that he would never learn to sleep through the night, unless I trained him to sleep. I have never believed that to be true for any baby. Do not get me wrong, waking up every couple hours at night was at times, brutal. Of course, I was tired but I knew my son needed me and needed to be comforted. He would wake up crying and all he would need was me to pick up him, hug him and lay him back down and he would go back to sleep. The older he was getting, the less he would wake until one night, he slept through the night and then a few more nights and a few more. I can happily say that for the majority of the time, he sleeps all night. I am proud of myself for trusting my intuition and not giving in to the immense pressure to get Joaquin to sleep through the night. I knew that he was a sensitive soul and needed extra support and love which provided him security to eventually be able to sleep on his own.
Trust me, it was a long and bumpy road and at times, I struggled with what to do but I held true to my heart and I am now rewarded with a full nights sleep.
Trust yourself as a mother. You will always be given opinions on what you should be doing for your child but remember that only you know what is best for that sweet little girl or little boy.

Follow your intuition.
Alicia

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Positivity

Intuitively, we know when we like a person or feel a connection with someone. Intuition also helps us filter out people in our lives that we feel have negative energy or people that often play the role of “the victim”. All of us have those type of people in our lives but what is the best way to deal with them and how do we keep their negative energy out of our positive space.

1. Remain Positive
For example, if someone in your family or someone you work with is a constant ball of negative energy and uses you as their punching bag or as a person to vent to, do not let them. Remind them that you are happy to listen to them in their time of need or offer support when needed but let them know that the discussion needs to be positive. If that does not work then try your best to distance yourself from the person and/or situation.

2. Meditate
Mediation is key to living a life of positivity. Even if you take five minutes a day to close your eyes and meditate while repeating your favorite mantra, it can work wonders for banishing negative energy. Sometimes, I even do it while I am washing the dishes. As a mama of two children, I try to make every moment count.

3. Pray
I do not mean you have to pray to God but just pray out loud for positive things in your life or pray for positive things for someone else. Just by putting it out into the universe, much goodness can come from that.

4. Write it down
Write it down! Journal, write a letter, write a book, whatever form of writing comes natural to you or even drawing is a wonderful release. Weather you write it or draw it, the key is to envision the positive energy in your life. Write down what that is for you or draw what that looks like for you. If you do this, good things will come.

5. Let it go
I hear this phrase everyday as my daughter sings “Let It Go” from Frozen as she acts out the role of Elsa. But that song has a great theme to it. We can never move forward in a positive direction unless we learn to “let it go”.
Leave the negativity behind.

Remember, we all deserve our life to be full of positive goodness but it takes a little work on our part as well.

Trust yourself,

Alicia

Special Mother's Day Intuitive Mothers Circle

Hi wonderful mamas and mamas to be,

I will be having a very special Mother’s Day Intuitive Mothers Circle on Wednesday, May 7 at 7pm at Pregnancy Sanctuary in Leucadia.  It will be a special night honoring all of my amazing mothers.  There will be yummy treats, fun drinks and a lovely gift bag for each of you.

Please RSVP to me at Alicia@intuitivemotherscircle.com.

Look forward to seeing you all there!

Trust Yourself,

Alicia Bravo

Founder, Intuitive Mothers Circle

Let your intuition be your guide

I had two wonderful Intuitive Mothers Circles last week.  I am always amazed how each circle of mothers is always so unique.  Each circle is brought together for a reason and these last two IMC gatherings were so special to me because they reminded me how important it is to trust myself and that the decision to move in to my mother in laws house was inside me for a long time but I was just not ready to listen to that path.  Now that I have made that decision, everything else has become so clear and has started to fall into place.  Our intuition is so powerful but sometimes, we choose to fight it because we may not like what it is telling us to do but I have learned that once we let go and let our intuition be our guide, it truly unveils a beautiful path ahead. 

Thank you to all my amazing mothers for sharing with me this last week.  You have brought me true love and guidance.

Trust yourself,

Alicia

I love Intuitive Mothers Circle

It is the truth, I love leading my Intuitive Mothers Circles sessions.  Every circle is unique and my favorite thing is always how each circle of mothers is brought together for a reason.  The mothers that are present at IMC, always seem to reflect each other for what their needs are for that moment.  It is always beautiful to witness.  It was so nice to have last weeks IMC.  It had been awhile.  With the holidays, cold and flu season, scheduling conflicts and then my son breaking his leg, IMC kept getting rescheduled.  I was happy to be gathering with my wonderful mothers again.  The energy I feel when leading these strong and amazing mothers through circle is so empowering and provides me the energy I need to keep moving forward in my own motherhood.  Last week, I was so thrilled to have one of the mothers text me afterward that IMC provided her a safe haven to speak her feelings and for the first time, in a long time, she felt she found other mothers she could connect with and relate to.  That is why I love leading IMC.  It is my passion to empower mothers to feel like “super moms” and to trust themselves completely in their decisions they make as mothers on a daily basis. I hope to see you all at the next IMC sessions this month.

You are never alone.

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The month of February has been a very challenging month for my family and I.  As many of you know, we have been struggling financially after losing my part time job in November.  I thought it would be somewhat easy to find another part time job and was willing to accept a full time job if needed but in the world of “stay at home motherhood”, you are often over looked for job positions because you are often considered “over qualified” for the types of jobs you are applying for.  I do not want to go back to work full time because I want to remain at home with my children and my overall goal was to try and make it to March, with the hope that my previous job would resume.  With that being said, my husband and I have maxed out on our financial options and now have been trying to sell his camper van, in order to buy us some time and get us through April.  We have had many curious buyers but have yet to sell the van.  We basically have one or two more weeks for it to sell.  If that does not happen then we will have to look into ourselves to make some tough decisions. 

As all of this has been going on, I have felt very lost and alone at times in our struggles.  I believe greatly in the Divine path and believe that if I let go and ask the Divine to lead me on my path, she will.  However, my challenge has always been to let go of my worries and fears and have complete trust in the power of the Divine.  I grew up in an environment that was saturated with worry and fear and I have always struggled to let things go to faith.  I have often admired those around me who have the ability to give their worries, their doubts and fears to the Divine and trust that the Divine will protect and guide them into the right next steps.  One person I admire deeply is Jenna Gessay, the Founder of Harmony Compass.  I have always admired her ability to trust the Divine and felt empowered after reading her blog post from last week, http://harmonycompass.com/2014/02/28/february-guidance-remembering-our-connection/.  It helped me to realize that everyone struggles with letting things go to a higher power, for me that is the Divine.  Everyone likes to be in control of their lives and when things become challenging or scarey, it is easy to “freak out” and lose faith but that is the time when faith is the most important. It is the time to reach out as far as you can and as high as you can and meditate and ask the Divine for help.  I realize that is the only way to achieve peace.  Like Jenna says in her blog post, it is important to not ask the Divine the question of “why” because you may never get the answer, at least not right away but instead listen to what the Divine is telling you and trust in the path that is being presented to you. 

This is always hard to do and in the next few weeks or maybe the next few months, I may find myself making some really hard decisions but I have to trust in the Divine and believe that this is part of my journey. 

Having faith is a very intuitive thing to do.  I am intuitive in my daily life as a mother and it is time for me to pass that on to my faith in the Divine.

Trust Yourself,

Alicia Bravo

Founder, Intuitive Mothers Circle

I would rather be a stay at home mom

Living in San Diego can be very costly and many people may think it is crazy or impossible to do it on one income and I would have to agree with them.  My husband makes a very middle of the road salary, not quite enough to live on for a family of four with rent, a car payment, eating organically, preschool, day to day bills, diapers etc. I need to work part time to bring in extra income to make sure we can afford to live on our own.  However, I am not willing to sacrifice being a stay at home mother, so whatever job I have, I prefer it to be from home or be as little time away from home as possible.  Right now, we are in the process of selling my husband’s camper van. It is our last hope to stay in our home with the assumption that my job that was put on hold in November, will resume in March.  Looking ahead to March, it seems that all things point in a positive direction and I will be employed again but it has me reflecting on the last few months and what we have done to survive in order to keep me at home with my children.  Now I realize, many would think this is foolish to not have financial stability but I would disagree.  Before I know it, my children will be in school full time and that will allow me to go back to work if I choose to but until then, I want to make sure that the person that guides my children everyday, is me. I selfishly want that for my children and for myself. I believe it is what is best for their well being.  In order to make that happen with our current situation and while I look for work, my husband and I have dug deep and sold all the things we could think of and we have reached out to all that could support us to keep us in our home. Of course, some may say, that is silly, what if I do not get a job and we have to move anyway. To that I say, it will not happen.  We have too much faith in the Divine path and too much faith in ourselves as parents, to let that happen.  I realize not every parent has the choice to be at home with their children and I am lucky to have that choice.  But I think everyone views it in their own way.  I know many people that wish they could stay at home with their children but they are so focused on the material aspects of life that they loose site of what they really want.  I read an article awhile back that talked about the idea that so many parents both work because they want to provide whatever their children ask for, dance lessons, soccer, art lessons, clothes, toys etc.  However, when the children were asked what they wanted more, the majority answered that they wished their parents were home more or one of their parents stayed home instead of working.  It is a tough choice and right now, it is even tougher since I am not sure where we will be in the next few months but we will move forward and I will continue to look for work that fits my children’s lifestyle and what is best for them and our family.  Intuitively, that is what is best for my children.  It is important to remember that home is wherever your family is and that is what matters.

Trust yourself,

Alicia

Founder, Intuitive Mothers Circle

Gratitude

For the last few months, we have been struggling financially, after losing my part time job in November.  While we look out to the horizon of things to come and things that may change in our life, I am reminded everyday of gratitude.  I live a very simple life with my amazing husband and wonderful children but that does not mean that things are not a roller coaster at times.  However, the one thing that is important to have, especially in times of need is gratitude.  There are many people out there who may think my husband and I are crazy to chose not to work two full time jobs so we can have a lot of money and financial security.  At times, that does sound appealing when I think of vacations to Hawaii or getting a pedicure but then I realize the joy and value in being at home with my children.  You only have one chance to raise them so why not take the chance if you can.  I would go back to work full time if I had to but we would rather try everything else before that decision is made.  It may mean we cannot go out to dinner or to the movies but it is all in the short term.  So I am working on being grateful for these choices, showing gratitude for being at home with my children, having a part time job that allowed me to work from home, being able to put healthy food on the table, having a loving, strong husband, having a healthy and beautiful family, grateful to live by the beach, grateful for friends and family who provide support for us, having an amazing landlord who values the life we are creating in our home and my list goes on and on.  What I have learned is the importance of thanking the Divine for what I have, instead of complaining about what I do not have.  For me, that is a challenge every day but it is key to a happy life.  For the next week, try writing down in a journal what you are grateful for each day or write it down on a post it note and post it on your bathroom mirror as a daily reminder.  In time, you will see there is much more to be grateful for in your life then you realized.

I will think of you in my “gratitude” thoughts and I hope you will do the same for me.

Trust yourself,

Alicia

Founder, Intuitive Mothers Circle