First, I have to share that I love helping mothers. Mothers to be, first time mothers, seasoned mothers, all of the above. It brings such joy to me to offer support to mothers in their time of need. I love the feeling of knowing that I helped a mother realize her strength from within. I have such gratitude to be able to share in those life changing moments. I truly feel it is why I am here on this earth.
About a month ago, a referral came to me from North Carolina. This mother was due on July 23 with her second baby. She contacted me because she really wanted to have a VBAC and was feeling very nervous, scared and unsupported with her decision. She was hoping I could provide some insight from my own VBAC experience along with some additional support systems she might need to have a successful VBAC. After talking with her, I was shocked how unsupported VBACs are in North Carolina, especially compared to California. Not only are they uncommon but C-sections tend to me more common then vaginal births. After researching this mother's doctor and hospital, I was astounded by the fear tactics her doctor was using in order to get her to have another C-section. This mother intuitively wanted this VBAC and knew based on her previous birth that their was no reason she was not a candidate for a successful VBAC. However, she was so pumped with fear tactics from her doctor and other women around her that she felt like she could not have the birth she deserved and wanted. Most women she encountered could not understand why she wanted a VBAC and some of them had 3-5 C-sections already. After I had a few emails with her and a support phone call, she transformed into this powerful mother and took control of her birth. She did the research I suggested and reached out to the support groups I mentioned and with only 3 weeks prior to her due date, she changed doctors and found an amazing midwife and now has a supportive team behind her as she journeys into her VBAC. It brought tears to my eyes to watch this transformation. When I first met her, she sounded broken and tired and told me that it was to late to switch doctors and now she empowered, excited and full of hope for her birth of her baby boy. We are still waiting for her to go into labor and I am hopeful she will have a beautiful VBAC birth but no matter what type of birth she ends up having, the most important thing is that she, as a woman, as a mother, made the decision for her birth journey. She embraced the fear and moved forward and trusted herself and that is all I ever hope for in any mother's birth path. Always trust yourself as a mama. Mama knows best.