Have You Done Your Brainwork Today?


About 6 months ago, I met this lovely mama, Danielle at one of my circles.  Afterward, Danielle came and talked to me about the work that she did for Alma Integration. She was super excited to have my family out for a session.  I always refer to Alma (the founder) and Dani as the “Brain Ladies” but they are so much more then that.  First let’s start with a little bit about Alma Integration.
 
“His or her mission at Alma Integration is to empower anyone who wants to live an easier, more efficient and more enjoyable life. At Alma Integration, they teach simple movements that develop the lower centers of the brain (Pons and Midbrain) and integrate primitive reflexes. When these movements are done daily, the brain can begin to shift out of survival mode and into a calm, logical state. Not only will the brain be able to process information differently, the brain will also be able to be more efficient and effective in every task.” 
 
So I am sure you are wondering what the heck this even means right?  To me, it means my kids do simple activities and exercises each day to help reconnect areas of their brain.  By doing this, over time, it provides them with the ability to handle situations with more ease and less drama.  Instead of being in fight or flight mode, they handle transitions like getting ready for bed, clean up time and various other tasks with a greater sense of calmness and ease.  There was a time when my youngest would get very upset about how his socks lined up in his shoes but now that does not bother him or he can handle adjusting his socks as needed.  My daughter used to have moments of drama bursts when she was upset but since doing her brainwork, she no longer is so emotional and is not triggered like she previously used to be. 
I am sure this is hard to grasp in some ways but when we are babies there are so many important milestones that we need to reach and this helps develop certain parts of our brain which leads to greater development as we grow.  For example, crawling is such an important part of a child’s development but these days, many babies are often kept in their car seat, a carrier or their bouncy chair so we can manage our busy lives.  These conveniences allow us to cook, clean, get ready in the morning etc. while our developing baby is sitting in their bouncy chair or in their carrier but it can also hinder brain development that they need.  Sometimes as parents, we brag that our child skipped crawling and went straight to walking but that is actually not a good thing for the future of your child and their behavior.
My kids have benefited greatly from their time with Alma and Danielle and this will serve them well as they continue into junior high and high school. They will be balanced and able the expectations that come with school, peer pressure etc. 
 
If you are at all curious, please go to http://www.almaintegration.com/.  You will be so glad that you did this for your children.

Trust yourself,

Alicia

Join our circle to discuss "Mama Depletion"

How many of us mothers feel depleted on a daily basis?  I often feel like I am full of energy but depleted at the same time.  Is that possible?  Yes, it is.  Once we become mothers our brain goes into baby mode.  We intuitively start having baby radar for all things our baby needs and this continues as our children grow.  Honestly, it never stops so as mothers we are constantly in this mode of “provide, provide, provide” and our brain and body give us the energy we need to do that for our children but at the same time, we are depleted as individuals.  Our minds and bodies are worn down because we are not taking time to provide to ourselves in ways of exercise, good nutrition, quiet time etc.  The crazy part is that most of us are already depleted going into pregnancy because of our work lives, personal lives etc.  This is not a good scenario since are amazing bodies are working so hard growing our babies and the placenta is designed to take all it can out of our bodies to provide for our growing baby.  So if we are already depleted going into this unbelievable process, what happens when our baby is born?  We as mothers may start to unravel quickly.  What can we do to not feel so depleted? The main thing is to find support.  Support from other mothers, support from a mothers group, family, friends, spiritual guidance, psychologist, counselor.  Just a person or place where you can talk and be heard and get the support you need to feel balanced.  There are small things you can do like taking 10 minutes a day for yourself to mediate, journal, dance, sing, do a facial, paint your nails, take a bath, something that soothes your soul and helps you to full whole.  As mothers, we give ourselves with all our heart and soul to our children but it is important to remember that if we become so depleted, all that will be left of us is a shell of a mother and that is not what we want to share with our children.  Stop feeling depleted and start moving towards your whole self.

Join Intuitive Mothers Circle on Thursday, November 16 from 10am-12pm to discuss the topic of “Mama Depletion” and get a lovely facial guided by Anneliese Wells from Your Core Wellness.  Register here for a spot, $25, spaced is limited.

Trust yourself,

Alicia

The Intuitiveness of Birth

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Giving birth to your baby is an experience that is unique to only you.  There are never two births that are alike.  No mater what your beliefs are, you cannot deny the miracle of birth and bringing life into this world.  I am grateful for my two beautiful birth experiences.  My first was an unexpected but amazing C-section and my second was a powerful natural VBAC.  Two completely different births but both offered priceless experiences as a mother.  The important thing to remember is that birth is a highly intuitive experience.  We as women are designed to birth these astonishing little humans into the world.  Not only are we physically built to birth our babies; we are intuitively built as well.  As mamas, we have that perfect 7th sense of intuition that can guide us in our birthing process.  The important thing that I share with all mothers to be, is that your birth experience should be what you feel is best for you and your baby.  No one should be dictating what your birth should look like except you.  There are always exceptions, sometimes we cannot have the birth that we hoped for but we can have the birth that we feel is right for our situation.  Take time to trust yourself and tune in to your body and your baby.  Surround yourself with a supportive birth team. That may include your family, a close friend, your doctor or midwife, a doula, massage therapist, chiropractor, lactation consultant, the list goes on and on and most importantly, a 100% on board supportive birth partner.  This may be your spouse, partner, father to the baby. Whoever it is, they need to be there to support you and the decisions you make along your birth journey.  Birth can be complicated but we as mothers have the best answers within us.  I love sharing about birth and watching mothers go through the transformation after they experience their birth journey. I always have a full heart of gratitude after mothers connect with me about their birth.  It is a true honor. 

Trust yourself,

Alicia

Summer Time with Stretch Marks

I am lucky to live in one of the most popular vacation destinations in the country.  Summer time in San Diego is full of beautiful sunny days spent at the beach.  As a family of four, it is one of our most favorite activities to do in the summer.  Before my husband and I had kids, I would throw my bikini on, pack our one tiny bag with a towel, water bottle and a book and spend the whole day soaking in the sun.  I remember thinking that when I get pregnant someday, I will still wear my bikini and show off my beautiful belly.  Well that was not exactly how it happened when I actually became pregnant.  I gained an easy 50 pounds, no matter what I did. I was in good shape prior to pregnancy and continued my active exercise program during pregnancy but my body wanted and needed to gain 50 pounds and that is what happened.  Of course, I was happy to do it because I wanted to give my baby and my body whatever it seemed to need. 

Of course, all I could think about was avoiding stretch marks.  My mother had them and they say 9 out of 10 women get stretch marks and they are often genetic.  Some women are missing the elastin in their skin, which makes it less stretchy.  Now this is great for as you get older because your skin is tighter which makes you look younger (my mom looks younger then her age) but it is not a blessing when it comes to pregnancy.  I was determined to not get stretch marks.  Rubbing oil, cream etc. on my belly everyday but around 7 months pregnant, I looked in the mirror and saw the tiniest stretch mark and from that point on, they just keep growing.  There was nothing I could do but embrace the beauty of my baby growing and my body doing what it needed to make that happen.  I will admit that 7 years later, it is still a challenge at times to accept my stretch marks but that is just me being ridiculous and feeding into societies crazy body image expectations.  Yes, I may choose not to wear a bikini anymore but I love my vintage style one piece.  Instead of focusing on the fact that I cannot change my stretch marks, I choose to focus on feeling good in my body and taking care of myself.  And most importantly, I remember that those stretch marks are a daily remember of the two amazing children I get to share my life with each and every day.  So watch out San Diego, maybe next summer I will be rocking that two piece and showing off my beautiful stretch marks. 

Trust yourself,

Alicia

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Lion

The night before Mother's Day, I watched the movie "Lion".  This may be a spoiler alert if you have not seen the movie but I felt it was such a powerful movie about a mother's love and the bond between mother and child.  The story is about a young boy from India who is adopted by Australian parents but later in his life, searches for his birth mother.  There is much more to the story but that is for you to discover yourself.  What I loved about the story was the purity of showing how you do not have to birth a child to become a mother or love your child like your own.  Many of us have experienced mothers who may have not shown us love, protection or nurturing support the way we may of needed it in our life but while we were missing that in our own mothers, we found that support in another who loved us like we were their own child.  You do not have to birth a child to become a mother, that is not what defines a mother.  While I am grateful for growing and birthing my babies, what makes me a mother is the unconditional love I give my children.  Meeting their needs first, making sure they feel loved, safe, protected and nurtured in all ways.  Being a mother is making sure my children feel heard and that they matter always.  I have been blessed to have some women come into my life who have been like mothers to me and I am grateful for their love and support.  As our Mother's Day has passed, take the time to think of person who served as a mother in your life and share your love with them.  Happy Mother's Day!

Trust yourself,

Alicia

Reflection

Oh my goodness, I have not posted in awhile. The last few months have been a bit crazy and full of change. As I get close to celebrating my 39th birthday, my theme for this year will be reflection. Reflection on myself, my goals, my passions and what I hope for in this 39th year of my life. As a birthday gift, my mother is sending me for one night to a hotel and spa. I am excited to spend the night alone in my comfy room and enjoy the calmness of being by myself. I plan to spend the time reflecting on what is to come and what I want this year to look like. I think it is the perfect birthday gift.

Trust yourself,

Alicia